When we can define ourselves and allow others to define themselves we become emotionally mature. When we say clearly and courageously with our words and actions:
- Who we are
- What we think
- What we believe
- What we want
- What we will do
- What we won't do We allow others to define themselves and even invite others to say who they are and what they think and believe, even if it's different from us.
Throughout the gospels, Jesus defined himself by saying who He was and what His mission was. At the same time, He never controlled or manipulated others to agree; instead, He asked questions and invited others into conversation to help them see where they stood in relation to Him.
Emotional maturity says with clarity and courage what is the case for them.
On the other hand, emotionally immature people:
- Name call
- Blame
- Try to control others by ignoring them or disrespecting them
- Focus on how others are wrong
- Persuade and coerce people to change
I don't know about you but I've learned I cannot change others. The only person I can define or change is MYSELF, and often times I change my mind.
Ah, and there lies the freedom. To love others not by coercion them but by allowing them to figure out who they are and what they think for themselves.
Emotionally mature people allow others to define themselves, say who they are, and what they think and believe even if it's different from themselves.
Let's be ourselves and allow others to do the same as we hold out the Word of Life to those who want to hear it.
